Love, dating, relationships are unsteady areas to navigate for people of all professions but the risks and rollercoasters it comes with seems to amplify when it comes to creatives.
I have been writing for the past 4 years and the journey to where I am right now has been as tumultuous as my relationships. The first partner I was with back when I started writing gave me an ultimatum to either keep writing or end the relationship. His reason was that I was basically writing porn and he does not think he wants to be with someone who is so open about their sexuality.
He loved my sexual energy, he just did not understand my need to tell stories around them, stories that are meant to make other people feel good. He was insecure and had no confidence in my feelings for him so his answer for that was to stop me from doing what I clearly enjoyed doing to boost his ego. It was a trying time because this was someone who ticked so many boxes on my “list”. Willing to make the relationship work, I decided to give up writing. I deleted all the posts I had on my blog and deactivated the account. Foolish right?
Unfortunately, this is a reality that resonates with a lot of people in the creative space; creatives who have set out to break boundaries.
I’ve spent time in several talking stages trying to figure out if the other party genuinely likes me or they are just fuelled by their curiosity to find if what I write matches my personality. Most guys use my blog as an opener to break the ice with me and it blurs a lot of lines with me. Some go as far as “We should meet and talk about what you write in person.” What exactly do you want to talk about? The last story I wrote? Do you want to know whether I’ve actually experienced an orgy or a threesome? Why do you have to see me to ask that?
El, says his dating life has taken a downhill since he started working as a full- time photographer. The downsides of trying to date in his line of work is that he works with a lot of models (females) this brings a lot of jealousy and lack of trust from his partners….
Akosua, a sexual health advocate who is a podcaster and a spoken word artiste shared that her dating life was messy when she started her journey. She found it hard to figure out who wanted her and who wanted her for the sex parts. She describes her dating journey as a creative as insecure, a rollercoaster, fake…
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